Rejection

We have this unhealthy mindset to hide our feelings when we happen to loving someone.  There’s a lot of reasons why a person find the appeal of hide their feelings, one of the main reason is the fear of rejection. So why do we seemed so afraid of the rejection? So afraid we tend to choose to hide our feelings and pretend that didn’t exist even towards the person we loved the most, while the greatest privileges we have in this life is to love. That love is the most beautiful part of being alive.

"Love and Death" by Calcedonio Reina (1881)

Rejection and acceptance is like two side of the same coin, they’re exist because of the other. Instead of thinking rejection as an unpleasant thing that we should avoid, we need to start reconsidering rejection as an “opportunity”. Opportunity to give ourselves a chance to bravely finding out what’s best for us, what’s suitable for us, to moving forward, to stay with our own-self and bear the reality. This also happens when we’re in love. The fear of rejection makes loving someone seems impossible, it’s like the ongoing nightmare that runs in our mind every time we thinking about the person we love, they’re come and goes at the same time. Therefore we need to free ourselves from that fear by pushing ourselves out of the comfort zone, and find out how far-how hard we can go, accept that fear of rejection doesn’t bring us anywhere near what we’ve been dreaming of.

Let’s be real and honest, at least to ourselves.

The fear of rejection makes someone can’t be their authentic-self, they pretend to be someone that’s not them, someone that’s not in love with the most beautiful soul they ever came across to. The brain manipulate us into thinking that the burden of hiding it just a half of the burden we get when someone reject us. It’s so rooted in our brain and makes us want to stop trying. We shouldn’t be afraid to trying or to be seen trying because the fear of rejection. We can manifest in silence all we want but at some point, life require us to be as loud as we can be, as vulnerable and brave as we can be, and that’s why I do believe that one of the bravest thing a human can do even with a broken heart is…to keep loving, not feel embarassed to keep a heart ful of love because apparently rejection is not the end of love, same as broken heart and break ups. We shouldn’t feel bad is to showing the abundance of love even if it is not reciprocated, to embrace our feelings and wear it in our sleeves. We don’t have forever, so why don’t we start to showing the person we love how beautiful it is to be loved by us.

There’s no “in another lifetime” or “in another universe”, it is a nice thought but this is all we get. Take the chance in this lifetime where they being themselves and you being you.