Loving Wounds

People have wounds, most of them. But, I don’t think it is okay to share that wounds in a way to gain attentions. I do admire people wo were very open, who spoken up about their traumas, issues and some other things if their purposes are to raise an awareness towards some horrible things and share how to dealt with that, how to keep going on carrying that, not just to get a chick to hooking up with.

As an observant myself, I do seen people a lot, I love the process of trying to understand them. There’s a time where some of us started to embracing their wounds, and it became a trend itself. It’s fun and all until some of them using it as a rehearsed speech or introduction to get another gender’s attention, like some kinds of picked-up lines, trying to engaged with other’s deepest wounds and make them feel connected. A lot of women (especially) fell for that.

"Narcissus" by Gylus Benczur (1881)

“I’ve been cheated on by my ex gf”

“I’m fucked up, everyone’s leaving and I’m all alone, would you be my home?”

I do not degrading people who have been trough that, god bless them. But some of these people, that might never been through that, might be the villain itself, use that phrases as a Venus flytrap to get their filthy hands to women. It is sickening and make a real pain looks cheap. As human being we have an empathy, and what happened if a wounded deer comes to us? We want to take care of it. But, as long as my observation goes ('til this day by keeping an eye to some of the suspect), they have tendencies to use that pain as an excuses to hurt their significant others if they’re doing a bad things. Manipulating their s.o into believing that their action are understanandable because they’ve been hurt before.

Even if that pain is real,

You can be hurt by people and you still be a good person to a people that’s not hurt you.

Not to mentions they’re doing it to a lot of women not just one and done. Like I said, these people use that pain as a Venus flytrap, after these poor women get trapped, and of course he couldn’t accommodate all of them, so he selected it by their physical appearance, effort, or even sexual performances. This is not the end, what they’re gone to do with the women that’s not passed into these ten kinds of fucked-up support groups? Dumped them? That would be a NO, take a note that manipulators and narcissist loves attention, these type of men tend to keeping tabs with these women, just in case.

A woman that investing too much their empathy that later could lead to loving these men they’ll end up nothing but inflicting that pain to themselves.

Pay attention to whoever you're going to invest your time with